Arguing
with children
He forgot to unload the gun and
almost shot his father. His father didn't say a thing and continued doing his
thing. I learned that children know the difference between right and
wrong. That they do not need to be punished for wrongs they didn't intend to
commit. And that wrong itself contains its own punishment.
She doesn't want to eat her cereal. Ask her what does she want to eat? If she wants tamale, give her. If she wants candy tell her u don't have (be sure that is true) and give her another choice.
She doesn't want to go to bed. Read him a story until he is sleepy.
She doesn't want to eat her cereal. Ask her what does she want to eat? If she wants tamale, give her. If she wants candy tell her u don't have (be sure that is true) and give her another choice.
She doesn't want to go to bed. Read him a story until he is sleepy.
I watched my wife. Her view of her
two boys was different from my approach to child rearing. She saw her children
as individuals who were fully entitled to her respect-even as infants. She
listened to them. She trusted them. She gave them freedom. She never nagged
them-never once did I hear her tell them to pick up their room or do their
homework or mow the lawn. As a matter of fact, she wouldn’t let them mow the
lawn, which resulted in their demanding the right to do so. As the important
issues of their lives arose, she made room for them to make their own
decisions. I found the dynamic fascinating. The more she trusted her children,
the more trustworthy they became.
The key to the parent-child relationship
is respect. It is not enough merely to love a child. We commit the most heinous
wrongs in the name of love. Most child abuse is perpetrated under the guise of
love: “I punished you in this fiendish fashion only because I love you.” “This hurts me worse than it does you.” I saw
my wife treating her children as friends.
How to Argue and Win Every Time: At Home, at Work, in Court, Everywhere
How to Argue and Win Every Time: At Home, at Work, in Court, Everywhere
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